Why Working From Home is for Me!

I am sitting at my dining room table while my daughter sits next to me practicing her name.

While I may not get a ton of work completed, I love being able to sit with my daughter and help her, while I work; I love that I have the choice.

This wasn’t the plan

I never envisioned myself working from home. I always thought I would have this successful career as Counselor and work with children.

In fact, I am in School now working on my Master’s Degree in Clinical and Mental Health counseling; so being a Counselor is still very much something I want to do, but I needed something better in the interim.

So why am I writing?

Honestly, the idea regarding freelance writing first came to my mind about 5 months ago. At the time I was about 2 months pregnant with my 2nd child; knowing I had another child on the way I quickly felt the anxiety surrounding leaving my baby and returning to the work world.

Although that bridge was a way down the road, I couldn’t stop those same emotions that I had after my daughter from resurfacing; the feelings that I was abandoning my daughter and neglecting to spend adequate time with her.

I couldn’t believe these feelings were coming back up so soon, and I knew I didn’t want to be faced with that decision again!

I had to figure out a way to elude these feelings. I was beyond determined to find a way to stay home with my babies and still be able to make an income – because not working was not an option for me and let’s face it, not working is not an option for many mothers.

The Process

I started by looking into being a virtual assistant. Which I talk about a bit more in another post “7 Vital Tools You Need to Efficiently Work From Home”  Take a look if you want to know a bit more. https://michelleanderson.org/2019/04/12/7-vital-tools-you-need-to-efficiently-work-from-home/

I stumbled across Freelance writing when I ran across the blog of Alicia Rades and one of the authors for The Write Life. https://thewritelife.com/category/blogging/ I also found some pretty helpful tips from Elna Cain, creator of innovative ink https://www.innovativeink.ca/.

Both websites are jammed packed with so much helpful information for beginners like myself!

Although what works well for one writer won’t necessarily work for all writers; I appreciated the knowledge and personal feedback/experience shared on both of these websites.

Hundreds of websites offer up some valuable information to get anyone started on their writing journey.

Where am I now?

Not too far – haha

To be honest, I am not writing this after becoming some sort of success story – I am still in the early stages, and I am still learning a lot from research, trial and error!

I have learned a lot over the last 5 months, but I did not actually put my self out there and start launching my career until about 2 months ago.

I woke up one morning told myself it was time! It was actually beyond time to get started – so  I did!

And honestly, it was the best choice I could have made.

No I am not rolling in money from my 500+ freelance gigs and offers, but I am getting tons of experience, and I happened to land a few clients within 30 days of starting my business – not for free either!

But you see this is only the beginning for me!

While only doing this for such a short amount of time I have been successful. That statement does not make me cocky or conceded because I know that I have not reached the top!

I am continually re-evaluating my goals to push myself for greater success!

Are you are a freelance writer? Are you a mother? Or even a Father?

How do you juggle wiring and taking care of your littles? Please share your story – maybe someone can learn from you!

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Rates

My current rate is .10 cents per word.

This rate is subject to change at any time, unless already in a contract or unless other arrangements have been discussed before agreeing on a contract.

I am open to negotiate prices for clients that are looking for long term contracts but would like to try out a few articles/post first.

Price examples:
$50 = 500 words
$75 = 750 words
$100 = 1000 words
$150 = 1500 words

If the article(s) require extensive research ( case students, research style papers, scientific papers ), an additional fee may be required.
Any additional prices or fees would be discussed before confirming the contract.

Any article 750 words or less has one free rewrite included in price; additional rewrites would be between $5-$25 depending on the extent of rewrite.
Any article 751-2500 words start at $15 for a rewrite unless otherwise discussed.
Any Article 2501 words or more start at $25 for a rewrite, unless otherwise discussed.


Rewrite prices are in ADDITION to base article prices!

Backlinks

Here I will list websites /web-pages that have articles I have written. They will either be published articles or listed as portfolio fillers.

  1. Published piece on a well respected Counseling website – Heart Centered Counseling. https://heartcenteredcounselors.com/self-respect-doesnt-have-to-be-hard-read-these-5-tips/
  2. Published piece on a well responected Counseling website- Heart Centered Counseling. https://carlscounseling.com/three-reasons-you-should-not-deal-with-depression-alone/
  3. https://www.upwork.com/fl/michelleanderson72 —> This is my Upwork profile portfolio section, which will have articles I have written for clients.

Night Time Horrors

Why is Night time so tricky in my house? I seriously can’t be the only one asking myself this question!

Here I am 4 almost 5 years into being a mom, and I still can’t win the epic bedtime battle with my sassy little munchkin.

Source Psychology Today

How did we get here?

I believe we have a reasonably loose bedtime schedule. I know you’re going to tell me that’s my 1st mistake!

Here’s the thing, for the longest time I worked Mon-Fri from 7 or 8am until about 5 or 6pm. Some nights, after work, I would go to Night class; if I didn’t have a night class, I would come home for about an hour and then head to a gym class.

This caused us to be home and sort of settled in around 9pm or later most nights.

Now that I have been out of school for a year, I still work until about 5-6pm and 2-3 nights out of the week my daughter has Dance or Gymnastics. So depending on the day of the week we may not get home and settled in until about 10pm.

Maybe some of you can relate?

I personally don’t like getting home and directly starting the bedtime process; I want to unwind, talk with my daughter about her practice, her day or just in general, before we get to the nitty gritty sleep time mess.

Most Nights

Once dinner has been eaten, and showers have been completed, I am pooped and I honestly just want to kick my feet up and enjoy maybe 30 minutes of my TV shows before falling asleep. To do that I need my kid to hit the hay.

The only problem is……. she still sleeps in the bed with me!

Let me go back a bit

When my daughter was born, I was deathly afraid to co-sleep; I mean you hear so many sad stories about families and their co-sleeping experiences; it completely terrifies you out of the idea.

But I did also read some positive experiences as well.

After about 7 weeks of sleeping with one open eye one and on the edge of my bed or couch, while my daughter peacefully dreamt in her bassinet, swing or crib, I thought it was time to relax and loosen the reigns just a tad bit.

Then I went back to work, and I missed my little baby like crazy; I missed holding her and smelling her and even watching her sleep (because I did that a lot).

So in my mind, sleeping with her was time for us to be close because we were away from each other so much during the day. I tried to make our sleeping arrangements as safe as possible because I was still nervous about the co-sleeping thing.

And I’m sure I will get a judgment or two on this, but hey we all parent how we want to parent and just hope and pray we are doing it right!

So anyhow, now my little one has been introduced to mommy and daddy’s bed!

As time progressed

Fast forward about 2 years, we started trying to get little lady in her own bed. Well, I was trying; her dad was perfectly fine with our sleeping arrangements.

But this step proved itself as a hard one.

We would try reading a book; stretching, night music even 20 minutes of TV here & there but absolutely nothing prepared her for sleeping in her own bed. So I would hold her and rock her until she fell asleep; which took anywhere from one to two hours!

So here I am totally worn out from getting my toddler to bed; its 12am and I still have to study or clean or do laundry. Hell or all three!

Needless to say, I became discouraged with this plan and welcomed Missy back to my bed within about 2 weeks.

Wait, don’t let me forget the nights I was successful in getting her to sleep (if you want to call it a success) she never slept in her room the entire night, and I regularly set alarms to wake up and go check on her throughout the night.

Ha, Ha, I know – I am shaking my head too!

The Other Night

So what prompted me to break out my laptop and write about this longtime struggle? What made me say enough is enough after 4 years of co-sleeping?

The other night!

There was nothing relatively different about this evening; we did our thing, ate dinner, talked, played, cleaned; it was a regular weekday night for us.

As 9pm approached I start talking the steps to prepare my kiddo for bed; by 10pm we are in bed, and I am turning off all devices, except the iPad which plays the “night music.”

First I ask my daughter to lie on her pillow, and I would pat her back while she falls asleep; she immediately jumped into freak out mode and demanded that she was held.

Okay that’s fine I hold her just about every night so what is the big deal with holding her again.

As I am holding her and patting her back, I swear about every 2-3 minutes she whines, tells me she is not comfortable and wiggles around in my arms, sometimes flopping from one side to another; after about 15 mins of moving and whining I just place her next to me and tell her to go to sleep.

Ohh, but why did I do that?

She broke out the waterworks and experienced a complete meltdown.

Absolutely nothing I said would comfort her; she didn’t want me to touch her, yet she didn’t want to lay by herself. My halfcocked threats didn’t work either.

I felt so defeated and over the entire night! I just wanted to sleep!

After about an hour of crying, flopping around and more crying she was off to sleep, in my arms!

What’s next?

I kept telling myself that after that night I was changing things up. My daughter was going to sleep in her perfectly comfortable queen size bed with her plush pillows and comfy comforter; after all, we had to prepare for her little brother arriving in a couple months.

What am I going to do with a child that still wants to be rocked to sleep and a newborn that is going to expect/want the same things?

Should have, Could have, Would have

These types of thoughts lead you to think of things you should have done differently or could have done differently. And then you tell yourself that you’re going to do so many things different with your next child to avoid not such positive experiences.

I specifically said to myself that I will not cosleep with my son at all; I came to this conclusion because of the difficulty I am having with my daughter now.

But if I choose to eliminate the cosleeping idea with my son, will I miss out on the same benefits of cosleeping that I have enjoyed with my daughter over the years?

Which leads me into next week’s subject – Is it fair to change your parenting styles/approaches with each child?